Blame and Excuses

When something goes wrong, is one of the first things that you do, is to point the finger at someone or something else as the cause? Does that solve the problem?

Is there a better way? Let’s find out.

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BLAME

Bill, who tells you that before being trained in Recovery, he used to blame fate for his inefficiencies, for his symptoms, for his calamities, has done a job which serves more than anything else that any patient has done to convince me that will can really be opposed to fate and can conquer fate.
Manage Your Fears, Manage Your Anger, Will Versus Fate, lecture 3, page 14

VICTIM

Once you think of yourself as being a victim, you will not try to seek help from your inner environment, from yourself. You will assume that you can't conquer this condition.
Manage Your Fears, Manage Your Anger, Frustrations, Emergencies and Beliefs, lecture 9, pages 49-50

I CAN'T

Their attitude is that of an abiding pessimism, they feel whipped and defeated; their guiding philosophy of defeatism has hardened into a settled conviction. ... Their philosophy of "I can't" has assumed the status of a dogma; it is implicitly believed, hotly defended and fondly sheltered.
Mental Health Through Will Training, The Passion for Self-Distrust, chapter 29, page 244 in the 1997 edition

MOTIONLESS SITTING

… control of restlessness and agitation through determined motionless sitting
Mental Health Through Will Training, chapter 41, Sabotage Method No. 9: Failure to Practice Muscle Control, page 327 in the 3rd edition
For a detailed description see Manage Your Fears, Manage Your Anger, lecture 56, There Is No Hopeless Case (part 2), pages 352-353